Disclaimer: This subject is kind of a touchy one, and my own opinions in this post are subject to change a bit based on the action of the parites involved but in no way is it an attack nor a defense of either side. It is merely something I’ve noticed and kept my mouth quiet about as an officer, as bias amongst the leaders can create problems within the ranks below. Take this issue with a grain of salt, please. I don’t mean to upset or offend anyone that may be aware of this issue, and I am not directing this post at any parties.
So there is a divide in our guild, one that hasn’t seemed to hurt progression, but one that slices our family a little bit. It’s something that comes up in Officer Chat a lot on raid nights even before the first trash pull. The reason I bring this up is I know that guilds have their cliques, but the reasoning of the clique within us seems like totally dysfunctional reasoning to me.
“Kids” is what is seen in the chat when they are being referenced. Granted that is what they are, but some nights it seems like no matter how good they do or if they are actually correct about something, it just isn’t good enough and the point is deemed invalid. The age range within our guild is huge, and the ones being named are the lower ranged ones. I’d say they are between 14 and 18, and they act their age for the most part.
What sets me off about this whole thing is they are some of the highest DPS we have, they know their classes to the bones, they flask for every raid when they can afford it, they are some of the most loyal people we have in the guild and they are there if you ask for help (sometimes instantaneously). Yet they are being called out for two things, talking in vent, which is an expected no-no when a fight is going on AND talking on vent all the time. Now the first one I can understand, that is something that is expected as a raider. The second one is uncalled for. At the same time they are being persecuted when they make a mistake as if they are the only ones who make mistakes.
Some people in the guild take aggression towards them which in turn causes more stress because there is hostility now in the raid. (Haven’t seen evidence of this effecting performance thou) And this is where the split happens, those that show the aggression put those that don’t in between a rock and a hard place; on top of that the Guild Leader is obviously having a hard time catering to those upset and maintaining members that contribute in areas that we need (like a 25man roster).
I try to see the positives in people: they bring high DPS, they are loyal, they want to see the guild go further (from what I can tell), and they help when you ask for it (either by linking professions or grouping for the daily/weekly). As an officer I try to take this positive outlook and apply it to an unbiased look at everyone. I’m not going toot my own horn, but I play the good cop when it comes to the officers. I’m the type that whispers parties and try to hatch out a compromise for better behavior, or inquire about why someone did something. I see positive reinforcement works better than hitting the “kids” with anger bat, cause as we are/were all kids at one point in time and I know they feed off from it.
I assume all guilds have this issue, there are members that are/act younger than everyone else and they generally get frowned upon just for that one reason, and aren’t praised for what they do positively. How does it affect member relations? Does it effect progression? At what point do cases like this get out of hand?
Is it too much to ask everyone to get along?